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Ceremonies are a way for families to show their love for their loved one and a way for those left behind to begin the healing process. We are here to personalize each service as each family is unique in its wishes.  Please look under the "Merchandise" tab for information regarding urns, urn vaults, and keepsake jewelry.  

- Traditional Cremation Service refers to cremation that takes place after viewing and the funeral service and is much like a casket funeral. The body of the deceased, placed in a specially-selected cremation container or a ceremonial casket, is the focal point of the service.  A visitation can take place prior to the funeral service and the cycle is completed with the cremation rather than a traditional burial after the service.  If the cremated remains will be laid to rest in a cemetery, a public or private committal service may be held.

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May 2020:

For the past few years, we have shared information regarding the burial of cremated remains (also known as cremains). We encourage families to discuss details of their final disposition and do what is necessary to protect the cremated remains of their loved ones.

Funeral traditions have changed over the years. As cremation has become more popular, it has posed new challenges not faced with the more “traditional” casket funerals. Obviously, the movement and burial of caskets require different planning and equipment than is needed for urns.

We have seen these challenges first-hand in Spink County. Please take a moment to read through these. Your understanding and compliance may help many future generations of your family.

-Mobility:

An urn of ashes is much easier to transport long distances than a casket. We receive cremains regularly from all over the country. Right now, the United States Postal Service is the only delivery system to handle cremains and does require specific packaging. However, it is also easy for a family to transport their loved one’s cremains in a private vehicle or by shipping them in the mail to a local friend or relative.  

-Burial:

Here is where we are still encountering many problems. We continue to be contacted by local cemetery sextons after they have discovered cremains being buried by family in a “private, family get together” or they accidentally learn of it after-the-fact. Families are choosing not to notify the cemetery sexton for multiple reasons. However, if the sexton is not notified, cemetery records will not be accurate and may cause problems in the future:

     - Sextons are responsible for marking graves for the gravediggers who are hired to dig graves. The gravedigger relies on the sexton for marking the grave accurately before they dig, and sextons rely on accurate records to instruct the gravediggers appropriately. When individuals are not working with the cemetery’s sexton, there could be serious issues in the future: 

               - Each cemetery has guidelines on how many urns may be buried with a casket or multiple urns in an individual grave.   

     - If the sexton is unaware of a cremains burial (with or without an urn), the gravedigger may unintentionally dig up or do damage to an urn or the actual cremains already in the grave. The sextons are trying to keep detailed records of how many urns are in a grave and their position within that grave.  

               - If your loved one already has a headstone in a cemetery, but will not be physically buried there, please notify the sexton so the record can show no physical burial where there is a headstone. It will save confusion in the future.  

               - Please note that more and more cemeteries are requiring urn vaults for burial. There are a variety of vaults available, but the purpose is the same – to protect your loved one’s ashes. Your loved one’s cremains are placed in the vault, and the vault is sealed prior to burial. 

-Genealogy  

     - If a person is buried without any documentation, there is a good chance that the next generations will not know the final resting place of that family member.   

     - As more and more cemeteries make the transition to computerized programs for burial records, if a loved one’s burial has not been documented with the sexton, there will be no record online either. 

- The example we refer to most is a call we received a few years ago from a family in California. They were looking for their “Aunt Martha.” They thought another family member brought Aunt Martha’s urn with her cremains to a local cemetery for burial and wanted us to confirm that. However, the cremains were not shipped to the funeral home, the sexton had no record of “Aunt Martha,” and no documentation was ever filed to document the final resting place with the sexton, the county, or the state. To this day, “Aunt Martha” is still missing because her family cannot find anyone who remembers what happened. The family member who supposedly transported “Aunt Martha” has since passed away. In fact, they now believe “Aunt Martha’s” ashes may have been in her favorite teapot instead of a traditional urn, and there is a chance that “Aunt Martha” may have been unintentionally thrown away when the family cleaned the apartment out. This family may never know what became of “Aunt Martha."        

-Headstones 

When we sell a headstone to a family, we rely on the sextons to mark each grave. They will flag each grave as needed, which tells the setters exactly where to place a headstone, which does require some digging. If no one knows that someone’s ashes have been buried there, damage may occur to an urn, or as we’ve unfortunately seen, ashes disturbed or discarded because they were buried in a plastic bag without the sexton’s knowledge.

-Documentation 

     - Documentation is required to properly register a burial.   

          - It starts with the local cemetery sexton, as discussed above. 

          - After the sexton has signed it, the burial permit also needs to be filed with the county where burial occurs. 

          - Finally, the burial is then registered with the state.  

     - To improve our records of final disposition, we have implemented the following at the funeral home:  

          - We complete a “receipt” document for cremains in our care.   

          - We complete this document with burial information when we handle the burial, and this documentation remains with the individual’s file in a fireproof cabinet.

                - When a family takes their loved one from our care, we have them sign the receipt, and only the person who signed the contract can remove their loved one from the funeral home unless they give authorization otherwise. We make a copy of their driver’s license to put on file as well.

            - We include the family’s intention for final disposition. For example, we make a note on the receipt that as of that date and time, the family indicated that their loved one would be “scattered in the Black Hills in the summer of 2020” or “committal service and burial on June 23, 2020.” If the family changes their mind after they leave, of course, we only have on record what their intention was that day.

We encourage each family to protect their loved ones. Please take the time to contact the sexton of the cemetery, and follow the regulations in place at each cemetery. Please allow the cemetery sextons (most of whom are volunteers) to keep accurate records for your family in the future. If you would like to assist further, we know that donations are greatly appreciated for the expensive upkeep of these cemeteries where your loved ones have been laid to rest.

Please help us, the sextons, and the gravediggers help your family for years to come. If you would like more information, please do not hesitate to contact us at the funeral home (605-472-2444).

The following sextons are those we work with the most, and with their permission, have allowed us to publish their contact information:

CEMETERY LOCATION          NAME OF CEMETERY          SEXTON NAME          SEXTON PHONE #

        Ashton                                   Ashton                             Robert Oberfoell           605-380-5597

          Athol                                       Athol                               Deb Christensen           605-472-3708

          Athol                            St. Mary’s Catholic                   Robert Woodring        605-460-2853

        Burdette                                 Burdette                               Dan Bottum               605-450-0497

        Conde                                    St. John’s                             Tim Van Hatten           605-382-5816

        Doland                                    Doland                                Joseph Remily            605-450-0133

      Frankfort                                Mt. Hope                                 Alan Johnson              605-472-1741

       Frankfort                         St. Ann’s Catholic                           Robert Knox            605-460-2282

       Mellette                                 Calvary                                     Greg Morgan             605-887-3291

        Mellette                                Mellette                                     Craig Oberle              605-380-2535

        Miller                            St. Ann’s Catholic                             Roger Zens               605-354-2071

     Northville                               Fairview                                    Lyle Peterson           605-887-3522

        Redfield                              Greenlawn                               City of Redfield          605-472-4550

        Redfield                       St. Bernard’s Catholic                        Kelly Hyke               605-472-2444

        Tulare                                  Garfield                                           Ted Price               605-596-4315

        Tulare                                Graceland                                 Loren Marzahn          605-460-2265

        Tulare                                  St. John’s                                     Wayne Binger        605-450-0255

      Tulare                                  Tulare                                            Ted Price               605-596-4315

      Turton                        St. Joseph’s Catholic                           Jim Becker             605-897-7636

         Zell                             St. Mary’s Catholic                               Jerome Zens         605-450-0236

We thank all sextons and gravediggers for their hard work, attention to detail, and willingness to help us serve families with professionalism and compassion. And, we thank families in advance for assisting the cemetery sextons in keeping accurate records.

Kelly and Bonnie Hyke


    



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